The Worst Relationships Teach the Best Lessons

Day 6 of 31

Ok…where am I going with this?

Hey you guys! Thanks for joining me for another day of #BlogEverydayinMay. Today we are talking about shitty exes and the wonderful gifts they leave with us.  

I’m a firm believer in “everything happens for a reason.” (Well, most times anyway) I apply that philosophy to all things in life, including horrible relationships. It’s never going to work with every person — which is why we try so hard to find “the one.” While it may be difficult, and even discouraging, sorting through a mass of possible suitors, in the end it’s all worth it once you find your special someone. Reason? Well, think of your dating life as a muscle. Each relationship strengthens and trains this pseudo muscle for the next one. With each heartbreak and/or breakup you learn something new about yourself.

If you struggle with resentment towards a past relationship, allow me to expose my dirty laundry in hopes of inspiring you to see the silver lining. Below is the list of my less-than-stellar exes (boyfriends and love interests)  and the invaluable lessons they’ve taught me.

Mr. Forever: You taught me how to be loved and you showed me that I’m worthy of love by just being myself — obnoxious laughter, corny jokes, gluttony, and all! You also taught me that no amount of love is worth my self-respect (or sanity), which is why I left.

Mr. I ran into you on a date with another woman: Usually, after a bad breakup I still find myself giving the dude a series of “second” chances. In this case I ignored your ass and learned that bullshit never deserves my attention. If I know something won’t last or if I’m certain there is no point in pursuing a situation, I let it go and I never look back.  Thanks for making “moving on” so easy.

 
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Asshat (Note: Turns out this word has no ugly history): Thank you for being such an asshole. You called me out on my passive aggressiveness all the time. You always knew when I was lying to myself. You always knew when I sacrificed my comfort for your ego. Most times, you took advantage of that. Because of you, I now always say what I mean, and mean what I say.  My relationship communication is now completely #nofilter.

The Cheap Guy: This one is a combination of a few. You were cheap with your heart, your time, your respect, and yup, even your wallet.  You made down payments with false promises. I always knew I was selling myself short but I’d stay, because at the time I didn’t feel worthy of anything more. You taught me to be alone, to not date whenever I am in a negative space. You taught me to love myself enough to see my value. You taught me to question whether or not a man could afford my heart, my time, my soul — me.

The Nice Guy: This relationship taught me that nice does not equal good. You were sweet, patient, and easygoing, but you just weren’t for me. This isn’t about “nice guys finishing last.” It’s about finding the right match. It’s about passion. The spark.  Nice guy or bad guy, it doesn’t make a difference. If there is no chemistry, foundation, or growth, the relationship will go nowhere.

This was a lot. Gotta go. Catch me tomorrow for another post!

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