Let Go of the Responsibility for Other Folk’s Feelings

You ever catch a vibe? Scene: You’re navigating life, just  minding your own wonderful damn business and then….BOOM! Someone confronts you with icky energy.  You try to step around whatever is consuming them, and get on your merry way of own-business-minding,  but they continue to follow you. Eventually, they start to wrap around you with their doodoo vibes, causing you feel some sort of guilt or responsibility for their negative mood. There’s no conversation as to why they are actually upset. There is no articulation of what is bugging them. Just a few huff and puffs,  sighs, stares, and an overall passive aggressive attitude towards you. End scene.

As someone who’s taken a lot of shit and blame from others for their personal issues, trust me when I say: Let it go. Let go of the responsibility for other folk’s feelings. Unless you have really done wrong to person, there is no reason to feel guilty over their negativity towards you. The moment you have to think and wonder about what you’ve done to make this person act shady, is the moment you need to take a breather and realize that person’s problem has nothing to do with you.  This blog post is for my fellow sensitive souls out there — the ones who care too much, apologize for everything, and mind the emotions of others. Because of your sensitivity and tendency to “behave” for others lest you hurt their feelings (see: ego), it’s easy for others to view you as their punching bag. How dare you be in a happy relationship!? How dare you enjoy your work?! How dare you take a positive risk for your future?! How dare you do whatever they didn’t have the courage to do in their own lives?! How dare you not coddle their insecurities?! You need not feel uncomfortable or insecure to make someone else feel better about themselves.

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You don’t belong to anyone but yourself (and God). You don’t owe anyone soul-security — that’s self-work. I’ve been feeling this way for a long time and finally decided to write about it. If someone is giving you an attitude or negative vibes without explanation, let them be miserable. Let them sit in that space and sort out their own problems. If for them, the “issue” isn’t worth addressing directly, then for you, it’s definitely it’s not the energy. They got the right to be mad and you got the right to remain unbothered.